If you’ve been reading The Quirk Life for awhile, then you might already know that I started seeing a therapist. She’s taught me a lot – like, that I had become so indulgent in my work that I didn’t take much time for myself. But my therapist kept instilling in me that I needed to take better care of myself.
I admit that I can be a moody little wench. But one thing I get a lot from people is that I’m “happy go lucky” and “positive.” Awww thanks guys.
I’m sure that this is partly my nature. But a lot of it comes from practice. If you’re surrounded by drama and negativity, it’s only natural that you’ll become stressed. You start to see the world differently and not in a good way. Once you get into a negative mindset it’s not easy to break out of it. But today I’m going to share 6 easy ways to remove drama from your life so that you can have a peaceful mental state.
We’re coming up on my most favorite time of year again. The holiday season! I’m a Fall baby (#teamlibra) and I love dressing in layers and sipping on warm drinks. This time of year is supposed to be about love, charity and overall togetherness. Personally my heart always feels for the people who had a loved one to pass on. This time of the year can remind them of what they don’t have rather than the things they do have.
Raise your hand if “chronically single” seems like a fitting description of your love life. Now raise it if you consider yourself a loner. *raises hand*
Unfortunately we live in a time where people still think that there’s something terribly wrong if you’re not involved in a romantic situation. Situation, not relationship because the trend seems to be more about codependency rather than an actual partnership. OK, hopping off of the soapbox now.
I understand that as you get older, the picture of “success” might include having someone to share your life with. But how do you date with sense when you’re used to being alone? It may not seem like a difficult transition but I can tell you from experience that it’s no walk in the park. Here’s what I’ve figured out…
It’s probably no surprise to you that I write in a journal. I don’t use it everyday although it’s great practice to do so. It seems that a lot of people use journals when they’re young, especially in the preteen years; but then stray as they get older. It makes sense because as adolescents we have so much going on (physical/emotional development, confidence issues, being separated from childhood friends) and may not always have a person to talk to about those changes. At that point in our lives a journal feels “safe.” But then we get older, busy. Journaling isn’t just for the youngin’s. Here are a few reasons to get back into using a journal today.
After this post you might might be considering getting a therapist. If so, great! Personally, making that call to set up the first appointment was hard. I straight up told my therapist that even though I needed to talk to her, I really didn’t want to. I also didn’t know what exactly would happen at the first appointment.
How are you feeling? Good? Overwhelmed? Content? A variation of all three?
Sometimes life just gets weird, ya know? But lately I’ve decided to take better care of myself physically, mentally and emotionally. For one I’ve stopped working so much and am doing more things that make me happy no matter how small it may seem. Sure I’m all about ambition but before that I’m Candace. I can’t forget that and you shouldn’t forget who you are either. Here are some things that should put a smile on your face.
“You don’t eat meat?!”
“How do you get protein?”
These are two questions that I get asked on a regular basis. I’m not sure why it’s difficult for people to comprehend. Maybe because I’m still fat. But meat isn’t necessarily unhealthy so that’s not the reason I stopped eating it. Find the reason here. For the record, I’m still fat because I eat a bunch of other bad things like ice cream pints (in one sitting), buttery homemade pizza dough and cheesy pasta to name a few.
I’m not ashamed to say that deep down I’m still a big kid. Maybe that’s why children are so drawn to me. I loved coloring as a child and trying different techniques and effects with patterns. I never really outgrew the past time, I guess just got older and it was no longer the norm for an adult to use a coloring book.
I won’t lie – I thought about buying one and just using it to pass time and relieve stress. But every coloring book had some overrated animated character as the theme. Dora the Explorer, Hello Kitty and Ninja Turtles aren’t exactly what I want to use. But then…
I’m so excited to announce my new partnership with Rainbeau Curves!
If you aren’t familiar with them check out their site. They sell durable yet cute workout gear for us thick women. That’s their top I’m wearing in the photo :-.D They heavily promote body positivity which I’m definitely all about.
I’ll be writing blog posts for them over the next few months and the first one goes live in a week. Eek!
What’s your favorite brand for workout clothes?
Until next time…