Some decisions are easy to make – like taking an exciting new job or buying your dream home. Others are challenging and push you to limits. Thankfully some of the hard decisions that I made have paid off. I often get asked why I did something or how I pulled a task off. It’s not always easy for me to give a step by step because I tend to be very “in the moment” when I’m moving through life. One thing I know without doubt is that when something isn’t working in my favor (job, relationship, whatever) – I change it to put myself in a better position. Here’s a small peek into things I’ve done that have propelled my life.
If you’ve been reading The Quirk Life for awhile, then you might already know that I started seeing a therapist. She’s taught me a lot – like, that I had become so indulgent in my work that I didn’t take much time for myself. But my therapist kept instilling in me that I needed to take better care of myself.
I admit that I can be a moody little wench. But one thing I get a lot from people is that I’m “happy go lucky” and “positive.” Awww thanks guys.
I’m sure that this is partly my nature. But a lot of it comes from practice. If you’re surrounded by drama and negativity, it’s only natural that you’ll become stressed. You start to see the world differently and not in a good way. Once you get into a negative mindset it’s not easy to break out of it. But today I’m going to share 6 easy ways to remove drama from your life so that you can have a peaceful mental state.
We’re coming up on my most favorite time of year again. The holiday season! I’m a Fall baby (#teamlibra) and I love dressing in layers and sipping on warm drinks. This time of year is supposed to be about love, charity and overall togetherness. Personally my heart always feels for the people who had a loved one to pass on. This time of the year can remind them of what they don’t have rather than the things they do have.
By now you probably know that I’m seeing a therapist. It’s one of the best decisions that I’ve made for myself. If you’re thinking about finding a therapist you might wonder if it’ll be worth it. The short version is AB-SO-FREAKING-LUTELY. OK – ‘yes’ is the shortest version. Here are some things that will happen once you get into the routine of seeing a therapist.
After this post you might might be considering getting a therapist. If so, great! Personally, making that call to set up the first appointment was hard. I straight up told my therapist that even though I needed to talk to her, I really didn’t want to. I also didn’t know what exactly would happen at the first appointment.
I’ve been seeing a therapist every week – surprise surprise! Until now there were only a handful of people who knew that. Now the whole world wide web knows – sorry mom. It’s been on my heart to share this with my readers because there is still a stigma surrounding mental health especially in the black community. We can share silly memes like this one:
…but we shy away from the real issues. Those days have come to an end for me. OK MAYBE I still act a tad crazy but I’ve stopped avoiding my issues and am working to be a better person! Here are the reasons why I decided to get my life back in order by seeing a therapist.