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Business Tips

Why You Should Write a Self-Assessment & How

Do you dread annual reviews from your manager at work? You’re in good company my friend. In fact, many employers are getting rid of this yearly headache. 45% of HR leaders don’t believe that these reviews are an accurate depiction of employee performance*. If your employer still participates in the annual ritual, you need to be prepared. You don’t have to take whatever they dish out to you and leave the conference room feeling defeated. Performance appraisals should be a conversation with everyone involved in the process contributing and that includes you!

Some employers will suggest or require that you complete a self assessment before the annual review takes place. If they don’t say a peep about it – complete one anyway. Here’s why… Continue Reading

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Blogging

6 Things to Do in Your First 6 Months of Blogging

When I started blogging I assumed that there were certain things that I either didn’t need to do or couldn’t do because my site was new. Through experiences and courses from my blogging mentor I know that The Quirk Life could’ve been successful much sooner. We live and we learn, right? One beautiful thing about the blogging world is that there are several ways that you can succeed in it. So if you’re thinking that you have to wait until you get a ton of experience before you can hit certain milestones with your blog, I’m here to encourage you to get started – TODAY. Here are 6 things that you need to do within 6 months of launching your blog. Continue Reading

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Lifestyle

Gift Ideas for the Homebody

If you’re at all like me, you start thinking about gift ideas long before it’s time to even pass them out – no matter the occasion. Christmas will be here in a jiffy! I’ve already explained before why us homebodies are so awesome to have as friends/family. If you want to get us them something meaningful this holiday season, the good news is that we’re usually easy to please in the gift department. Keep in mind that homebodies just love making a house into a home. It’s a place of refuge and rejuvenation for us and for anyone who visits. Continue Reading

All in Fun, Television

I’m Going to Be on TV!

I’m a star ya’ll!

OK not exactly but maybe one day? When Wendy Williams was fresh on the TV scene I was in her studio audience. I was even in one of her commercials for the show! Unfortunately I don’t have any pictures from my moment of fame back then.

But alas, my time has again come!

There’s a brand new show airing this month on the Food Network called The Baker Sisters. Earlier this year they came to Atlanta to film an episode at Cami Cakes Cupcakes and I was in the building! I had sooooo much fun and the show’s crew was very professional about everything. I wasn’t able to get many photos because of the rules on set but it was a day to remember. And I got to eat a bunch of cupcakes for FREE?! Can you say “dream job?!” Continue Reading

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Writing

How I Set the Mood for a Good Writing Session

I literally write something everyday. Some of it doesn’t take a lot of thought: like journaling, writing letters or inking my plans for the week into my planner. Then there’s the writing that takes a lot out of me. Even though these assignments are my passion and calling in life they pull a lot of creative energy from and I need to focus to produce something of quality.

Lately I’ve been approached by people who don’t profess themselves to be ” writers” and they ask stuff like…

“How do you just come up with ideas like that?”
“How do you keep from getting distracted?”
“How do you do it?!”

Before I get to any kind of work I always set a certain mood to get my creative juices going. I keep these methods going and don’t change simply because it works for me. Continue Reading

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Business Tips

How to Resign from a Job Professionally

I know a lot of people on the hunt for better jobs or who have recently accepted new offers! Congratulations to you all!

For anyone still looking for a new position, based on research and my own personal experiences, this is one of the best times of the year to apply. Summer vacations are over and children are back in school. So the important decision makers of a company will be around for the hiring process. If you’re hoping to get into the federal government, their fiscal year ends on September 30th each year. Which means that they’ll be doing quite a bit of hiring for the last 3 months of the year.

Even if you don’t have a new job offer in hand, you may have a feeling that your time is coming! It’s not too early to start thinking of your resignation letter. Remember that these letters aren’t usually required, but of course you do still need to let your employer know if you’re planning to quit and when. You can do this verbally or through an email (I had to do this once because all of my superiors were out of the office). It’s really a personal preference, but I do suggest some kind of paper trail over the verbal option whether it’s a physical piece of paper or an email.

My clients are sometimes nervous about turning in a resignation letter and I always tell them that this isn’t personal, it’s business. There are two things that should be included and they’re very basic: the announcement that you’re leaving and when your last day will be. You don’t have to go into specifics unless you want to. Here’s a resignation letter that I turned in to one of my old managers. Continue Reading

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Relationships

10 Phrases to Boost the Spirit of Your Black King

I love black men. That’s a fact. It doesn’t change even though this country consistently portrays them in a negative light. The world tries to tear them down, but I won’t. I’m not perfect and I didn’t always use my tongue to build these Kings up in the past. I do believe that as young women we’ve underestimated how much power truly lied in our words at some point. Even when a man puts on an act like he isn’t listening – he might actually be. When you give him advice and he does the opposite – it doesn’t necessarily mean that he didn’t take what you had to say into consideration.

I didn’t always think this way. I used to talk AT men instead of TO them. I didn’t nurture them. I wasn’t sensitive to how hard this world was on them because I was raised to believe in the justice system. These days I know better. Supporting your King mentally and emotionally doesn’t always have to be a super deep or complex ritual. Try using these phrases on him. Continue Reading

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Writing

6 Ways to Add Excitement to Your Novel

I’m not just an editor. I’m a writer first, always. I’ve been penning books since middle school and one of my goals for 2017 is to completely finish the novel that I’m working on now. I’ve read and edited many books that start off strong and then get boring AF in the middle of the story. This is why some publishers and editors will initially ask you to send chapters from the middle of your book when they’re considering taking you on as a client. We call this the Messy Middle. It actually gives us great insight!

When your novel loses momentum…don’t worry! Here are some ways to get it back… Continue Reading

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Business Tips

Why You Shouldn’t Start a Business

Haven’t you heard? All of the cool kids are starting a business these days! Sometimes they even passively aggressively bash W-2 earners. As if they’re in an elite club that makes them better than employees. For the record, I AM an entrepreneur. I run my own writing and editing firm and am here for anyone who needs help bringing a project to life.

But I understand something. Running a business isn’t for everybody. It’s a life changing decision whether you do it part timer or full time. Anyone can come up with an idea for a business and even start it. But can you sustain what you started? If you’re thinking of becoming an entrepreneur, you may want to reconsider if… Continue Reading

Health & Beauty, Lifestyle

Real Ways to Self Care

If you’ve been reading The Quirk Life for awhile, then you might already know that I started seeing a therapist. She’s taught me a lot – like, that I had become so indulgent in my work that I didn’t take much time for myself. But my therapist kept instilling in me that I needed to take better care of myself.

This is a truth that’s over represented in the lives of people that I know. How can we do better? Continue Reading