When I was growing up my family had a real Christmas tree every year. We’d load up into the car and head to a tree lot…OK it was more like the corner of a strip mall parking lot with trees already cut down and for sale. We always got the cheaper tree – no fir! Oh the memories!
But I’m an adult now and this is my first year forming my own traditions. The biggest decision for me…real tree or fake tree? Hmmm.
I couldn’t believe that I was even considering a fake tree. My mama raised me better that. But then again mama wasn’t here to help me load and carry a tree from a parking lot. So I decided to use the virtually fool proof Pro/Con list to decide which was best for me. If you’re still undecided on what kind of tree you’ll have for 2016, this could help!
Selfish: concerned chiefly or excessively with one’s own interest and advantage, especially to the point of total exclusion of the interests and welfare of others
It seems that people hate it when you call them selfish – even if they really are. So I’m not going to call you that today my friend. But you’re reading this post for a reason. Maybe you know someone who could use these tips. If so, please share it with them! Because of course YOU don’t need them at all! :-.)
It’s probably no surprise to you that I write in a journal. I don’t use it everyday although it’s great practice to do so. It seems that a lot of people use journals when they’re young, especially in the preteen years; but then stray as they get older. It makes sense because as adolescents we have so much going on (physical/emotional development, confidence issues, being separated from childhood friends) and may not always have a person to talk to about those changes. At that point in our lives a journal feels “safe.” But then we get older, busy. Journaling isn’t just for the youngin’s. Here are a few reasons to get back into using a journal today.
By now you probably know that I’m seeing a therapist. It’s one of the best decisions that I’ve made for myself. If you’re thinking about finding a therapist you might wonder if it’ll be worth it. The short version is AB-SO-FREAKING-LUTELY. OK – ‘yes’ is the shortest version. Here are some things that will happen once you get into the routine of seeing a therapist.
After this post you might might be considering getting a therapist. If so, great! Personally, making that call to set up the first appointment was hard. I straight up told my therapist that even though I needed to talk to her, I really didn’t want to. I also didn’t know what exactly would happen at the first appointment.
What you should do…
I’ve been seeing a therapist every week – surprise surprise! Until now there were only a handful of people who knew that. Now the whole world wide web knows – sorry mom. It’s been on my heart to share this with my readers because there is still a stigma surrounding mental health especially in the black community. We can share silly memes like this one:
Photo Cred: IG – everythinglovely
…but we shy away from the real issues. Those days have come to an end for me. OK MAYBE I still act a tad crazy but I’ve stopped avoiding my issues and am working to be a better person! Here are the reasons why I decided to get my life back in order by seeing a therapist.
How are you feeling? Good? Overwhelmed? Content? A variation of all three?
Sometimes life just gets weird, ya know? But lately I’ve decided to take better care of myself physically, mentally and emotionally. For one I’ve stopped working so much and am doing more things that make me happy no matter how small it may seem. Sure I’m all about ambition but before that I’m Candace. I can’t forget that and you shouldn’t forget who you are either. Here are some things that should put a smile on your face.
Anyone else dream a lot throughout the night?
When I dream, everything is in full color and very vivid. When I wake up my heart is usually racing – because of course I can’t have some chill dream like suntanning on the beach with Derek Morgan. Sometimes when I wake up from a dream if I fall back asleep too soon the dream will continue. And depending on the dream that can be a frightening thing!
I’ve had people tell me that my dreams mean nothing; that they came from a movie I watched or something I ate.
I’ve been candid about how long it took me to furnish my apartment after moving to a new state with pretty much nothing. I’ve been blessed financially but I’m always still searching for a deal before before spending money. And of course when decorating my place I wanted some original art pieces (uh hello, my blog name is The QUIRK Life).
My place isn’t completely decorated but it’s come a long way in the last 6 months and I want to share what I’ve learned. Here are 6 ways that I’ve saved money while getting my place in order.
I can’t believe it’s been 6 months since I packed up and moved from Maryland to Georgia with no job and no furniture. Just the stuff that would fit in my car. It’s been 6 months of lessons about what being an adult really means. Some things I’ve learned…