By now you probably know that I’m seeing a therapist. It’s one of the best decisions that I’ve made for myself. If you’re thinking about finding a therapist you might wonder if it’ll be worth it. The short version is AB-SO-FREAKING-LUTELY. OK – ‘yes’ is the shortest version. Here are some things that will happen once you get into the routine of seeing a therapist.
After this post you might might be considering getting a therapist. If so, great! Personally, making that call to set up the first appointment was hard. I straight up told my therapist that even though I needed to talk to her, I really didn’t want to. I also didn’t know what exactly would happen at the first appointment.
I’ve been seeing a therapist every week – surprise surprise! Until now there were only a handful of people who knew that. Now the whole world wide web knows – sorry mom. It’s been on my heart to share this with my readers because there is still a stigma surrounding mental health especially in the black community. We can share silly memes like this one:
…but we shy away from the real issues. Those days have come to an end for me. OK MAYBE I still act a tad crazy but I’ve stopped avoiding my issues and am working to be a better person! Here are the reasons why I decided to get my life back in order by seeing a therapist.
How are you feeling? Good? Overwhelmed? Content? A variation of all three?
Sometimes life just gets weird, ya know? But lately I’ve decided to take better care of myself physically, mentally and emotionally. For one I’ve stopped working so much and am doing more things that make me happy no matter how small it may seem. Sure I’m all about ambition but before that I’m Candace. I can’t forget that and you shouldn’t forget who you are either. Here are some things that should put a smile on your face.
Anyone else dream a lot throughout the night?
When I dream, everything is in full color and very vivid. When I wake up my heart is usually racing – because of course I can’t have some chill dream like suntanning on the beach with Derek Morgan. Sometimes when I wake up from a dream if I fall back asleep too soon the dream will continue. And depending on the dream that can be a frightening thing!
I’ve had people tell me that my dreams mean nothing; that they came from a movie I watched or something I ate.
I’ve been candid about how long it took me to furnish my apartment after moving to a new state with pretty much nothing. I’ve been blessed financially but I’m always still searching for a deal before before spending money. And of course when decorating my place I wanted some original art pieces (uh hello, my blog name is The QUIRK Life).
I’m so excited to announce my new partnership with Rainbeau Curves!
If you aren’t familiar with them check out their site. They sell durable yet cute workout gear for us thick women. That’s their top I’m wearing in the photo :-.D They heavily promote body positivity which I’m definitely all about.
I’ll be writing blog posts for them over the next few months and the first one goes live in a week. Eek!
What’s your favorite brand for workout clothes?
Until next time…
I used to go out all the time in my early 20’s. Seriously ALL THE TIME. Hang out all night and still be at work by 8 AM – not a problem at all. Drive 3 hours just to party with my friends at their college – no biggie. I didn’t even buy groceries because I was on the go so much. Looking back on it I couldn’t even imagine living that way now. I never cared about the domestic side of life. Cook and clean? That was for my grandmother’s generation. I wanted to travel, dance, build memories with my friends, play in my makeup, get tattoos and get pierced. Glad I got all that out of my system!