Lawd I remember going through puberty. And when it came to my underarms I defaulted to the name brand “deodorant” that my mother used. Over time I learned that the stuff I wore wasn’t deodorant at all – it was an antiperspirant. The terms are used interchangeably but they’re not the same at all. Overall I’ve slowly incorporated a more natural lifestyle and it doesn’t stop at eating healthy and exercising. The things we put ON our skin matters as well since it’ll still be absorbed into our bodies. So I started using “all natural” deodorants.
I tried 3 different brands and here’s what happened…
I admit that I can be a moody little wench. But one thing I get a lot from people is that I’m “happy go lucky” and “positive.” Awww thanks guys.
I’m sure that this is partly my nature. But a lot of it comes from practice. If you’re surrounded by drama and negativity, it’s only natural that you’ll become stressed. You start to see the world differently and not in a good way. Once you get into a negative mindset it’s not easy to break out of it. But today I’m going to share 6 easy ways to remove drama from your life so that you can have a peaceful mental state.
By now you probably know that I’m seeing a therapist. It’s one of the best decisions that I’ve made for myself. If you’re thinking about finding a therapist you might wonder if it’ll be worth it. The short version is AB-SO-FREAKING-LUTELY. OK – ‘yes’ is the shortest version. Here are some things that will happen once you get into the routine of seeing a therapist.
After this post you might might be considering getting a therapist. If so, great! Personally, making that call to set up the first appointment was hard. I straight up told my therapist that even though I needed to talk to her, I really didn’t want to. I also didn’t know what exactly would happen at the first appointment.
What you should do…
I’ve been seeing a therapist every week – surprise surprise! Until now there were only a handful of people who knew that. Now the whole world wide web knows – sorry mom. It’s been on my heart to share this with my readers because there is still a stigma surrounding mental health especially in the black community. We can share silly memes like this one:
Photo Cred: IG – everythinglovely
…but we shy away from the real issues. Those days have come to an end for me. OK MAYBE I still act a tad crazy but I’ve stopped avoiding my issues and am working to be a better person! Here are the reasons why I decided to get my life back in order by seeing a therapist.
I’ve been rocking natural hair since 2011. I did the “big chop” and haven’t even touched a relaxer since. As it grew longer, people kept telling me to get it pressed so they could see how long it really was. Even my hair stylist at the time asked me multiple times to let her do it. For me it wasn’t a big deal to have straight hair anymore. I’d had it as long as I could remember.
One time I did have a full sew in and left a piece of my hair out to blend. I was exercising 5 times a week and pressed that leave out piece after each workout so it would lay flat. Big mistake! Those pieces of hair never returned to my natural curling pattern again – ever. I had to wait for it to grow out and trim it off which took a couple of years.
How are you feeling? Good? Overwhelmed? Content? A variation of all three?
Sometimes life just gets weird, ya know? But lately I’ve decided to take better care of myself physically, mentally and emotionally. For one I’ve stopped working so much and am doing more things that make me happy no matter how small it may seem. Sure I’m all about ambition but before that I’m Candace. I can’t forget that and you shouldn’t forget who you are either. Here are some things that should put a smile on your face.
“You don’t eat meat?!”
“How do you get protein?”
These are two questions that I get asked on a regular basis. I’m not sure why it’s difficult for people to comprehend. Maybe because I’m still fat. But meat isn’t necessarily unhealthy so that’s not the reason I stopped eating it. Find the reason here. For the record, I’m still fat because I eat a bunch of other bad things like ice cream pints (in one sitting), buttery homemade pizza dough and cheesy pasta to name a few.
Confession: I used to self sabotage A LOT. There were times that I was aware of what I was doing, but other times I didn’t know I was doing anything wrong. Isn’t it crazy how we can form unhealthy habits without even realizing how much we;’re hurting ourselves. Here are some ways that you may be working against yourself.
Since the January 1st, I’ve been seeing posts everywhere about creating healthier habits. It’s all the buzz every new year! I’m nowhere near 100% as far as clean eating but I’ve gotten much better over time. One question I always get is “Why don’t you eat meat?” My black card is automatically revoked when I say I don’t eat chicken. And I’m assumed to be Muslim when I say I don’t do pork.
But lately I’ve been getting questions from people who want to eat less meat. If you’re on the fence about making a similar change, maybe my experience will help.