I always said I’d never do the online dating thing. I didn’t think it was a “bad” idea and I know of many success stories. I just felt like it wasn’t for me. I’m a vibrant 20 something year old not a 45 year old divorced mom. No shade. Point being that I actually have time to go out and be social. I can meet a man myself if I want. I don’t need a website to do that for me.
But two people in two separate conversations in less than a week told me that I should try the online dating crap. I went ahead and did it because I was bored AF. You know I’m cheap – err, frugal. So I wasn’t about to sign up with a paid subscription service. I got on a free platform and the notifications came rolling in like a tidal wave!
“This is the most interaction I’ve had with the opposite sex in a long time!” I told my cousin.
It turned out to be a good experience for me. If you’re still stuck in the 20th century like I was, here are some tips in case you want to try online dating.
- Kissy kiss Mr. Frog
Eh, gross right? There are different variations of this old folk tale but the modern day twist is that us ladies must kiss a few of the wrong men (frogs) before we find the right man (Prince Charming). Don’t take this so literally! Just keep in mind that while there might be a lot of the “wrong” people out there, you might just get lucky enough to connect with someone worth your time.
- It’s ok to reach out first
This is true I don’t care what anyone says! I used to be all like “I observe, I don’t chase” (shout out to my girl Amy Winehouse). I still don’t chase per se but I’m confident enough to go after the things…or people that I want. Don’t take this one too much out of context either please! I’m just saying if you see someone you like it’s ok to send a message.
- Remember the non-negotiables
If you’re the type to get googly eyed over every good looking photo you see then this piece of advice is just for you. It might be easy to get caught in the excitement of alllll the possibilities but unless you want meaningless flings, keep it objective. What are the qualities that you’re looking for and the ones you aren’t? Keep them in mind as you go along. Oh – and do this even if you’re dating without the online element.
- Angles & filters matter
Everyone knows that us girls use angles and filters to “enhance” ourselves in photos. Please don’t think they guys don’t do the same! And that’s all I’ll say about that!
- Don’t believe everything you read
“Athletic” body type?
Maybe these things were true at one point and then life happened and this person hasn’t updated their profile to say “A few extra pounds,” “living with my momma” and “baby on the way…but we not together though.”
Dating these days can be a challenge but using these pointers might help save you some time a BS while you’re out there feeling your way around.
Have you tried online dating? If so, how did things turn out?
Until next time…