TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY! What a difference a year makes. It’s been a long time since I celebrated myself on my birthday. This year is different though. Nah I’m not throwing a big birthday bash – you know you’d be invited if I did! But I’ll be taking some time to spoil myself and do things that I’ve been putting off.
In my quiet time I realized that my life at 27 looks a lot different than when I turned 26. I want to share these insights with you. Here’s what I’ve learned over the last 365 days.
I’m not in control. Sometimes I repeat this to myself, because yes I have control issues. Not in a crazy jealous girlfriend way. I don’t try to control people. But I try to control my life. A lot of times I make my own plans, I want my life to be a certain way, I want to progress quickly! But then something happens & my plans are altered, just like my relocation or I just don’t get my way. I’ve had to accept that my life isn’t fully in my hands. God has a perfect plan for my life & it’s better than the one I have in my own mind. Accepting this truth makes my life a lot less frustrating.
Being connected to the wrong people will hold you back. You know the ones. When you connect with them there’s always drama & bad luck. You just get a feeling that they aren’t tied into your destiny. Baby, if you want to soar, you must drop dead weight.
Jealousy can be well hidden. My life isn’t perfect, I’m not perfect. Neither ever will be. There’s so much potential left for me to reach. Even when you know how ugly your life is behind the curtain, people will find a reason to be jealous of you. It’s happened to me. The first thing I’ll say is “Jealous, for what?”. And that’s because I know my personal struggles, the letdowns and other things that people don’t see from the outside. People will glorify an area of your life that appears to be better than their current circumstance and be really nasty to you in the process. They really admire you but don’t know how to express it without feeling bad for themselves.
If you really love someone, just say it. I’m not even going to elaborate a lot here. You get it. Don’t spend years wondering “what if?”. If you want a particular person, do something about it.
Forward focus baby. Put energy into planning your future not regretting your past. If you spend a lot of time focusing on past decisions and mistakes, where do those thoughts leave you?
Now imagine using that same energy to plan a better future instead. Life changer!
A mistake doesn’t equal failure. Dust yourself off any try again. Enough said.
Setting goals is important. We all know this, but I’ve only recently began actually doing it. Again – life changer! You can have desires but you will never reach them without realistic action. Heads up: today is a good day to start.
Family is important. Blood makes you related, but love makes you family. You know these people too. These are the people that matter a lot. These are the ones you need not take for granted . Keep them around & appreciate them. If something has come between you & a person of this caliber, mend the relationship if you can.
Stop wasting time. Why would you want to do this anyway? Get to work!
Knowledge is important. Especially as a black American. I’m not just talking about higher learning. Know your history, know the law, know statistics…you get me.
I’m humbled at being another year older and appreciate life more as I age. This is the second year in a row that that God answered my birthday prayer (not wish!). My heart is so grateful!
In what ways do you celebrate yourself on your special day?