I love black men. That’s a fact. It doesn’t change even though this country consistently portrays them in a negative light. The world tries to tear them down, but I won’t. I’m not perfect and I didn’t always use my tongue to build these Kings up in the past. I do believe that as young women we’ve underestimated how much power truly lied in our words at some point. Even when a man puts on an act like he isn’t listening – he might actually be. When you give him advice and he does the opposite – it doesn’t necessarily mean that he didn’t take what you had to say into consideration.
I didn’t always think this way. I used to talk AT men instead of TO them. I didn’t nurture them. I wasn’t sensitive to how hard this world was on them because I was raised to believe in the justice system. These days I know better. Supporting your King mentally and emotionally doesn’t always have to be a super deep or complex ritual. Try using these phrases on him.
I’m not just an editor. I’m a writer first, always. I’ve been penning books since middle school and one of my goals for 2017 is to completely finish the novel that I’m working on now. I’ve read and edited many books that start off strong and then get boring AF in the middle of the story. This is why some publishers and editors will initially ask you to send chapters from the middle of your book when they’re considering taking you on as a client. We call this the Messy Middle. It actually gives us great insight!
When your novel loses momentum…don’t worry! Here are some ways to get it back…
Haven’t you heard? All of the cool kids are starting a business these days! Sometimes they even passively aggressively bash W-2 earners. As if they’re in an elite club that makes them better than employees. For the record, I AM an entrepreneur. I run my own writing and editing firm and am here for anyone who needs help bringing a project to life.
But I understand something. Running a business isn’t for everybody. It’s a life changing decision whether you do it part timer or full time. Anyone can come up with an idea for a business and even start it. But can you sustain what you started? If you’re thinking of becoming an entrepreneur, you may want to reconsider if…
If you’ve been reading The Quirk Life for awhile, then you might already know that I started seeing a therapist. She’s taught me a lot – like, that I had become so indulgent in my work that I didn’t take much time for myself. But my therapist kept instilling in me that I needed to take better care of myself.
This is a truth that’s over represented in the lives of people that I know. How can we do better?
So the story goes…I was feeling overwhelmed. It had been over a year since I took a vacation.I started making silly mistakes with my work and feeling like I would cuss someone out over the simplest infraction. Yikes! Well, it turns out this guy I’ve been dating (we’ll call him ViC) was in need of a getaway too!
I’ve only been seeing ViC for a few months but we both agreed that we knew each other well enough to the point that it wouldn’t be “weird” to travel together. I was pleased to handle all the logistics! Neither of us had ever gone out of town with a romantic interest so so here’s what I did to make sure that we had a good experience.
So yesterday was Easter Sunday. I was raised in church all my life and was even faithful until a year and a half ago. Grandma consistently asks me if I’ve been going to church though and yesterday was no different. If the title of this post doesn’t give you a clue – no I didn’t go to church for Easter.
I haven’t hopped on the bandwagon of people who are too “woke”for church. I’m not even going to use the reasoning that I’m a Millennial and so forward thinking even though it’s true. The fact is that people keep asking me why I stopped going. I used to be a Jesus fanatic (seriously my Facebook memories about this fact are so annoying). I invited people to church often and they actually came. But that’s not the case anymore and here’s why.
I, Candace McGee am not accepting dates from men my age until further notice. Haha, kidding – or am I? *insert sideways smirk*
And to all the inquiring minds out there, no I don’t have Daddy issues. This trend of being with an older man isn’t something I ever planned to do. But we all know that girls mature faster than boys. Nah forreal. This isn’t even up for debate, k? Anyway in my dating experience of 8 months (not extensive but it’s enough for me to for me to write this post) I’ve realized that men I meet in my age range are rarely on my level mentally, emotionally or financially. So I finally decided to entertain a man that wasn’t in his 20’s…or even early 30’s.
I learned quickly that the stupid manipulations that I was able to get away with before wouldn’t work anymore. Dating an older man is like finally tasting lump crab meat after a lifetime of eating Subway’s Seafood Sensation. This is the real deal! Once you’ve had a taste of the finer things you won’t want to go back to a downgrade. Here’s how older men are different based on what I’ve experienced.
As an introvert I understand how challenging it can be to grow a small business. One of the easiest ways to generate leads is to network. Go out and talk to people that you don’t know – with your introverted self. Of course you’d rather be at home curled up on the couch with a blanket and a cup of tea. But you can’t grow professionally like that. Hell, you can’t grow period in that case. So how do you expand your business without having a mini (or huge) anxiety attack from dealing with people?
Well I’m glad you asked, haha! First of all let me be honest. To reach your full potential in business you will have to come out of your safe place. Being an introvert isn’t a valid excuse when you have goals to reach. If your tendency to withdraw comes from depression or low self-esteem then you need to deal with those things. From experience I can tell you that your business will suffer if the personal mental and emotional struggles aren’t handled.
Alright now that we’ve gotten that bit out of the way, let’s get down to business. If you’re an introvert but still want to grow your business, here’s how you can do it.
Lawd I remember going through puberty. And when it came to my underarms I defaulted to the name brand “deodorant” that my mother used. Over time I learned that the stuff I wore wasn’t deodorant at all – it was an antiperspirant. The terms are used interchangeably but they’re not the same at all. Overall I’ve slowly incorporated a more natural lifestyle and it doesn’t stop at eating healthy and exercising. The things we put ON our skin matters as well since it’ll still be absorbed into our bodies. So I started using “all natural” deodorants.
I tried 3 different brands and here’s what happened…
I admit that I can be a moody little wench. But one thing I get a lot from people is that I’m “happy go lucky” and “positive.” Awww thanks guys.
I’m sure that this is partly my nature. But a lot of it comes from practice. If you’re surrounded by drama and negativity, it’s only natural that you’ll become stressed. You start to see the world differently and not in a good way. Once you get into a negative mindset it’s not easy to break out of it. But today I’m going to share 6 easy ways to remove drama from your life so that you can have a peaceful mental state.