How are you feeling? Good? Overwhelmed? Content? A variation of all three?
Sometimes life just gets weird, ya know? But lately I’ve decided to take better care of myself physically, mentally and emotionally. For one I’ve stopped working so much and am doing more things that make me happy no matter how small it may seem. Sure I’m all about ambition but before that I’m Candace. I can’t forget that and you shouldn’t forget who you are either. Here are some things that should put a smile on your face. Continue Reading
These are two questions that I get asked on a regular basis. I’m not sure why it’s difficult for people to comprehend. Maybe because I’m still fat. But meat isn’t necessarily unhealthy so that’s not the reason I stopped eating it. Find the reason here. For the record, I’m still fat because I eat a bunch of other bad things like ice cream pints (in one sitting), buttery homemade pizza dough and cheesy pasta to name a few. Continue Reading
All of the recent events surrounding black people in the media have left me with a ball of feelings that I’m still sorting through. As a race we’ve had to overcome a lot and still have hurdles in the near distance. We don’t have it easy in Amerikkka but one thing is for sure – I LOVE being a BLACK woman today. I don’t need skin bleaching or filters on my photos to distort my complexion. I am who I am and I’ll never want to change it.
I’ve been saying that pretty much forever. I wasn’t allowed to have pets growing up (outside of a boring Beta which died quickly) and since being an adult all I’ve ever had are rabbits. After moving to Georgia I toyed around with the thought of having a dog. More for companionship than anything. Owning a dog comes with a lot of responsibility that I wasn’t totally ready for. So I put the idea out of my mind at least temporarily.
When I chose to give my virginity away it was a no brainer for me. I had a boyfriend and I was in (puppy) love with him. You couldn’t tell me that I wasn’t going to marry this boy and have all his babies. So naturally I chose him to be my “first.” I was aware of abstinence but no one put pressure on me to wait until marriage or a certain point in my life before having sex.
Of course I’m not with the boy anymore but giving him my virginity isn’t something that I regret. Times have changed a lot and women are able to be free with their bodies and not get ridiculed about it as much (tattoos, piercings, tight clothes, fishnet tights, thongs – you get it). Some young girls and women still feel the pressure of not having sex until marriage or some other pivotal point in their lives. This is especially true for people who come from a religious family. The argument is “there’s more to you than what’s between your legs. Let a man appreciate your totality as a person. Make him respect you.”
I know they mean well. But this can be a bit counteractive, don’t you think? They say she’s SOOO much more than her genitals and body but that’s what keeps getting drilled in her head. Speaking from personal experience, here are some things that are much more difficult to choose than a sexual partner. Continue Reading
I’m not ashamed to say that deep down I’m still a big kid. Maybe that’s why children are so drawn to me. I loved coloring as a child and trying different techniques and effects with patterns. I never really outgrew the past time, I guess just got older and it was no longer the norm for an adult to use a coloring book.
I won’t lie – I thought about buying one and just using it to pass time and relieve stress. But every coloring book had some overrated animated character as the theme. Dora the Explorer, Hello Kitty and Ninja Turtles aren’t exactly what I want to use. But then… Continue Reading
What’s more fun than a surprise party? Two years ago I put one together for my mom whose birthday is June 25th. It wasn’t easy to keep it all under wraps and in the end she suspected there would be some kind of gathering for her. Still it was fun! Party planning period can be stressful but if you’re trying to surprise someone this rings even more true! Here are some things that helped me pull off her party successfully. Continue Reading
Let me go ahead and lay out my parental situation. My mom is a single mother to 3 boys. I’m the only child my parents had together before they split. My father has always been in my life consistently in money and time. Even though my mom raised my brothers without consistent help from their dad I still don’t wish her a happy Father’s Day.
Because she isn’t a father and she never will be. Father’s Day is not for single mothers.Continue Reading
When I dream, everything is in full color and very vivid. When I wake up my heart is usually racing – because of course I can’t have some chill dream like suntanning on the beach with Derek Morgan. Sometimes when I wake up from a dream if I fall back asleep too soon the dream will continue. And depending on the dream that can be a frightening thing!
I’ve had people tell me that my dreams mean nothing; that they came from a movie I watched or something I ate.
We all need biography at some point. If you’re in business, if you do performing arts….even when you die people will want to read your story. You should know yourself better than anyone else but it can be hard to take everything and condense it into a snapshot.
I’ve written bios for myself and clients too and want to share some tips that should help get you going. Continue Reading